Chapter 33: Acceptance


On the first of June, I shared a personal story of how I was followed, harassed,  falsely accused and disrespected by the LaGrange Police Department. 

I shared my personal story because, one, beit naively, I truly believed we were “friends”. Two, I assumed people really wanted to change.

I have witnessed time and time again, my social media feed get bombarded with the social issues. Discussions everyday. All day.  Discussions of of injustice, racism, policing issues. So instead of talking about it all day. I presented my “friends” an opportunity to, one, help spread the message of harassment, intimidation, and disrespect about a personal “friend”. In  your own  personal neighborhood. Two, to #ChangeTheNarrative. I’m tired of all the discussions, so together, I want to start the change! 

After only 3 people sharing my story. All of which I have known me either all of my life or all of their lives. I received 35 likes. Which over 15 were family members. The rest true friends.  

With those stats, I was quickly reminded of two lessons my mom use to drill. “Everybody ain’t your “friend”, Ramon”. As well as, “everyone doesn’t have your best interest at hand.”

That hit me like a ton of bricks! 

As a child of the Most High, I was reminded of Proverbs 22:6, Train up a child in way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. So I accepted the situation and moving accordingly. 

But as a man and friend I was HURT. Pissed. Sadden. Dishearten.

This is why. Friendship was defined to me as; state of mutual respect and support. I learned that as a child, so that has not departed from me as a man. 

Trying to gain understanding, I was studying the scriptures and was reminded of Proverbs 18:24. It says “Friends come and go but a true friend sticks by you like family.”

With that one sentence all of my negative emotions left and I realized you guys were my friends at one point. We just never continued to build that. So the support/respect for each other isn’t the same.  That not a bad thing. We just haven’t developed that. You have your own “family” to worry about. 

As a Child of the Most High, I learned that He doesn’t change. So why would I? I was giving many of you a title, you hadnt earned or hadn’t earned a long time ago. As people, we grow. So that is why friends come and go. That’s not a bad thing. What happend is I didn’t let some of you go as friends.  I was giving out love, support and respect to those who grew apart from me but I keep giving away all of my respect and support to those who no longer reciprocated that to me. For my own well being, I can’t do it anymore.

Mural respect and support will be given to anyone who I consider a friends. If we can’t agree on that. We aren’t friends. That’s ok. Momma told me that everybody isn’t your friend anyways.  I understand it.

So I with that, I continue to build my relationships with my friends and hopefully one day they become true friends (FAMILY). Together my family, friends and I will continue our parts to #ChangeTheNarrative, one relationship at at time.

I love you all! 

Ramon C. Lacey

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